In life, we all have goals that we hope to one day reach. Most of us set goals that we believe are attainable or easily achieved. There are reasons why we do not think that we are able to go above and beyond these goals. According to Jordan Belfort, we are told that we are unable to do certain things by being indoctrinated with “limiting beliefs.” I believe this is done unintentionally by those around us; however, it most definitely hinders many of us from moving forward and doing great things. Belfort tells us how to break our limiting beliefs by identifying how or why we started thinking this way to start with, as well as how to get around these barriers.
You know, day one, we’re perfect, sort of this blank slate. We can be anything we want to be. Day two comes around, and we’re already being taught limiting beliefs. As we grow up, we hear them from our parents, our teachers, our friends, and the news media.
Then, all of a sudden, we find ourselves reinforcing negative cycles of belief. Sometimes, we try things and don’t get the results we want, so we draw the wrong conclusions — all based on these wrong beliefs that disempower us.
The right conclusion is that maybe you didn’t have the right skills or the right training or the right guidance to be successful at what you wanted to accomplish. The wrong conclusion would be that you just suck at this task. You weren’t born to be a closer. You weren’t born to play a musical instrument. You weren’t born to be a math whiz.
This cycle of beliefs really is that integral thing, that core of every human being that really sets us up to succeed at something or not. Chances are, if you’re not succeeding at selling right now, and you’re still struggling, you can attribute this to a deep-seated belief. The cycle of beliefs has reinforced a limiting belief in you, until it almost becomes a self-limiting conviction.
How’d that happen?
The first element to breaking a limiting belief is to understand how it got there in the first place. Then, we identify your personal limiting beliefs. Once we do that, it sets you up for the next stage, which is to break those limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering beliefs.
This really starts with understanding how that cycle begins, how you reinforce it through your own activities, and then how you short-circuit that limiting process and start a new process. That is achieved by laying down an empowering belief that’s going to serve you, that’s going to allow you to achieve what you want to achieve, become what you want to become, allow you to empower the people around you, feel connected, feel powerful.
This issue is intimate to every person, because we all have a very different set of experiences as children and adolescents. That’s really where our beliefs get laid down, which ultimately create the person we are today.
Look inside…look back
Take the time to search your own memory. Ask yourself, “How did this cycle affect me? How did this really start the process of me becoming the person I believe I am today?” It’s not about who you are. It’s about who you believe you are. Whatever is holding you back, you can break that. You can replace who you believe you are with a far more powerful you. Remember that.
You’re not set in stone. Your psychology is malleable. You can change yourself. You can better yourself. You can rewrite any destiny you want. You can create a future that serves you, that aligns with your vision that protects you and will allow you to retire with pride and dignity.
And finally, you can create a future that will protect the people around you — your family, your children — and really empower them to achieve the lives they want as well.